Monday, December 23rd, 2013

I saw this over the weekend, and while I laughed, I realized it was for someone else. It was for couples and not singles. That’s always a wet blanket.

I’m back from my parent’s house with newly-scented red onion fingers. That’s right, I cook. Not only that, but I clean, do laundry, tend to plants, and sometimes mend my clothes. This is set in juxtaposition to the construction I’ve done on my house, the walls repaired, the woodwork laid. I’ve tacked shingles on a roof and put up stud walls for additions. As I spread this all over the table, I don’t consider myself feminine but those roles have been assumed. I’m quite a masculine figure, which isn’t as popular as it was in the early 20th century, however I’ve come to experience that the converse isn’t either.

When I was at uni, the 100-level psych/humanities class preached a blend of masculine and feminine traits. While I didn’t intentionally plan it this way, I could feasible say I’ve done so. What’s disappointing is the seeming rejection of that notion in the real world. I have to get this out, as my mind’s on fire, but it’s almost as if I’ve been set up for failure by trying to cooperate. I’m sure that’s hard for some to either accept or even believe, but why is it I always get the “well, you’re an exception” when I hear women moan about men? If I’m the “exception,” or “safe” as one woman so eloquently put it, wouldn’t that make me more valuable? It hasn’t in my time. I should have have more opportunities by now.

Maybe the reasons are meant to be tentative? It always feels like submitting a resume. I know HR is looking for any mistake to fling it in the trash can. There’s always the possibility I’m simply not attractive enough for many women. I thought we weren’t supposed to judge a book by its cover, but it happens. Doesn’t it?

And the band played on…

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6 thoughts on “Monday, December 23rd, 2013

  1. Get cooking and forget the downers….things tend to work out better that way..

  2. nicjor79 says:

    Gender roles are deplorable. They’re really the only reason why there is still inequality between the genders. It’s the women that propagate them. Apparently, being able to expect better treatment from men in the romantic sphere than men can expect from them is worth not being taken seriously in every other aspect of life. What exactly is so feminine about cooking anyway? I love to cook, but every guy I know who cooks can cook better than me. I was once in a relationship with someone who ironed my clothes for me every morning. I hated ironing worse than anything, while he didn’t really mind doing it, so it made perfect sense. The important thing is just to pull your own weight- and to allow the other person to do the same.

    • Cooking’s an old expectation of women. Even in the video, you see the husband in an apron with the children making cookies for Santa. It’s the whole “kitchen’s a women’s domain” attitude that spawns phrases like “make me a sammich.” Hearing it always irks me, because I make my own damn sandwich. Unless you want to start a fight, you keep comments to yourself and let the other two sort it out how they want.

  3. kerbey says:

    I like men to be men, and women to be women, and never the twain shall meet.

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