Should I Stay, or Should I Go?

I love The Clash’s popular stuff. Sometimes I get the notion to dig into their catalog for the rest of the story, but then I get distracted.

Aside from my muscles screaming in four different languages on Monday, I had mental block about what to post. I spent the weekend doing all sorts of physical labor, including helping my sister paint her house. Apparently, mortgage underwriters are sending out shady inspectors to be capricious with their repair recommendations. The paint was peeling too much for Bubba’s liking and he wouldn’t give the green light to the underwriter until it was repainted. Super.

Of course, she was carrying on about it, because she had to fork over another $450 and wasn’t used to getting in and doing the job. It would have chewed up her whole weekend. She’s a public employee. Those people don’t work unless they really need to do so, you know. I keed! I keed, public employees! Not really. I’ve had to work with several Federal, state, and local departments for 14 years. I’ve had more help from a chocolate chip cookie.

What it brings me to is a post that I’ve been meaning to write over the past five and a half months. That’s about as much time as I’ve been on WordPress. I’ve read a lot of other poster’s material, and can say I’ve seen some great stories from some great people. On the other hand, I’ve seen some rather childish posts too. It’s a grab bag of the good and the bad, which I somewhat expect from a world-wide website.

Simply stated, I’m a white, American male with a masculine set of traits. That, apparently, makes me the Devil around certain parts and I didn’t even have work for it. That’s a little disheartening, as I earn my reputation. Someone has denied me the opportunity of burning down a village in Bangladesh or stealing candy from kids in the projects. Mmm… tastes like the sorrow of impoverished children. Does anyone really think that’s a viable point of view, or are they screaming to feel justified? I’m going with the latter, because the former is too hypocritical to even be discussed.

Getting to the point, if I sense a lack of discretion in you, then I will be less motivated to interact with you. Many of these posters on WordPress don’t seem to be willing to write with this understanding. It is also why I don’t follow anyone screaming blanket rage over men. I’m with everyone else that rape’s vile act, but not every man’s a rapist. I’m not sitting on the chocolate suede, my beloved couch of 10 years, reading fiery feminist posts thinking “wow, you’re right. I’ll have to cancel those rapes I was planning for the weekend.” Why? Because I wasn’t planning anything of the sort.

This is where “knowing your audience” helps. The people that are going to commit criminal acts will not be reading your WordPress blog. In other words, you’re insulting a section of your readership big time. They don’t have to put up with your crap. You’re a dime a dozen, and they have plenty of options.

Does this mean you’re to wrap yourself up in heteronormative stereotypes? Not even in the slightest, but you’ll go farther by being a friend. That’s why I don’t follow blogs that scream or act like a little brat on every single post. We all have our moments of anger, and I get that you’re frustrated in your position, but the lack of cooperation gets you nowhere. You do realize I don’t have to bother with your opinions, right? After society pretty much said I was on my own, it’s not difficult for me to go it alone. It’s a blessing and a curse, but one that’s not going to benefit your single-sided view on life. I’ll be off to help the people willing to work together. Sorry, Charlie.

I like you for who you are, as long as you’re comfortable in being who you are.

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6 thoughts on “Should I Stay, or Should I Go?

  1. laurasmess says:

    I love the honesty embedded in this post. I definitely agree regarding the ‘screaming brat’ feminist bloggers, they make me rather irate (particularly when friends on facebook perpetuate these rants through sharing the links). I think one of the hazards (and benefits) of blogging is that everyone can have their own little virtual soapbox to stand on… but instead of reaching a 50 metre radius in the town square, these views are published globally. Feminist views in isolation are not inherently bad; indeed, as a woman I need to thank my suffragette forebears for the opportunity to work and vote. Issues concerning women’s rights can be respectable and admirable, if people write on these topics from an informed, objective point of view. But misandry, in all of its shapes and forms, should not be tolerated. I despise the fact that some women write about so-called ‘misogyny’ from an ignorantly misandric viewpoint. A touch hypocritical, yes? Anyway, now I’m the one ranting. Time to stop. Glad that these issues have hit the Corvidae soapbox, they’re worth expressing 😉

    • Thank you, Laura.

      If one were to actually write down what I believe, I think it would be fairly egalitarian. I’m for a lot of options available to women (i.e. equal pay, ability matching the job position, etc.). All except dominion that is. I’m even pro-choice, as I’m not able to bear children. I defer that judgement to the people with more at risk. The only workforce issue I have is paid maternity/paternity leave, but that’s an economic objection. Why do people automatically assume a business has the resources to shoulder the burden of two workers (the original and the temp)? That’s something I think can be ironed out through contract negotiation though.

      This has taken quite a few years to be able to detect, but there’s something different between the woman who wants to be treated equally and the woman who’s out for power. Demonizing a group of people is often a weapon used by the latter, and allows support to advance a position. Dictators and other leaders have been using the tactic for centuries. Power can be a terrible possession. It has poisoned many people and caused a lot of pain in this world.

  2. Every time I rant on my blog, I somehow do the very thing about which I am ranting. I just wish people would realize that some people really do suck, but not all of them do. (And some government employees suck, but my husband doesn’t. He is still at work at 11pm.)

    • I’ve tried to highlight in the last paragraph we all have our moments of anger. It’s the breathing room that should have been present in my 20s. However, there are some bloggers who I feel aren’t really trying to be fair. As much as they are able to express their opinion, I block them. As I get older, I think I’m able to tell when someone’s trying to be reasonable and when someone has simply made up their mind.

      I know MTM doesn’t work for the unemployment, worker’s comp, income tax, sales tax, or educational departments. So, he’s safe for now. 😉

  3. There’s a lot of crazy people out there, Nate. Don’t let them get you down.

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